How often do we see a movie where everything goes according to plan for the characters and they remain happy and content from start to finish? If there is a movie out there where that occurs please let me know, because I have yet to find it. I believe most producers and writers wouldn’t create such a script because they feel it would be boring, lack substance, and fail commercially. Think about your favorite film. Does it consist of a character starting at point A, going through experiences that are often difficult, then arriving at point B by the end of the film having changed or grown as a person? Most films seem to follow this formula because this formula follows the reality of living. The first scenario I wrote out where people are forever happy and everything goes exactly as planned, that doesn’t happen. So why do we keep fighting so hard in our own personal lives to create something we don’t even want to create in the fictional world we watch on the screen? Think about some of your favorite fictional characters. Are they ‘perfect’? Or are they full of ‘flaws’ that create intrigue and endearment? Would you be interested in the character if they never made any mistakes or had any troubles?
This month I invite you to examine yourself and the characters in your life. You might find those characteristics, once labeled as imperfections, are what create the dynamic interactions in your relationships. The interactions you learn the most from. Can we learn to accept and even love the quirks within others and within us? Can we step back a moment from our life and view it on the big screen? Can we see how over the years, through our trials, we have gained greater depth and richness of character, and that our character will continue to grow and change directly because of those difficult situations that inevitably arise? Maybe if we can allow ourselves to be okay with the experience of life, then we can choose how we view it in our minds. I, personally, like to see myself in a comedy where everyone is full of wacky hijinks but no one means any serious harm, and at the end of the day, there is always a reason to laugh. Namaste.
